Dueling Parents: Managing High Conflict Divorce in Play Therapy
Divorce is often painted as a traumatizing experience, but what it looks like through the perspective of a child varies greatly. Working with high conflict divorce requires recognizing this deviation. It also requires a neutrality, and a focus on what matters most: healing the child.
1:10 Lisa introduces the Lessons from the Playroom series
2:43 Divorce can look many different ways and children have different perspectives
3:15 Some kids are relieved by divorce, others have their worlds shattered
4:30 Why is it important that we don’t take sides with one parent in the divorce?
6:11 The parents will set you up to feel what it’s like to be them
8:26 Setting boundaries when working with divorce
10:37 Valuing your time
11:10 Therapy is about the child, not navigating the waters of conflicting parents
12:50 Cultivating safety in the home
13:20 Why do children feel like they have to take sides?
14:20 Ask yourself if you’re in cahoots with one of the parents
16:10 Communication lines must remain clear and open
17:00 Talking about money up front
18:30 How do you stay neutral and why is that important?
19:40 What is parenting alienation?
21:22 Remember, you’re not getting the full picture
23:00 How can you stay focused?