Engaging Dads in the Play Therapy Process
Working with dads in the playroom isn’t always the same as working with moms. It takes understanding the psychology of men, learning how to communicate in a way that is meaningful, and proving that you are a partner who doesn’t know “better”, you just know “different.”
1:05 Lisa provides an overview of the Lessons from the Playroom series
2:20 Lisa introduces guest speaker, Dave Garrison, a High-Performance Therapist and Personal Change Coach with over twenty years of experience.
3:37 Dave discusses his kids and work experience
4:00 What’s the first thing that comes up in play therapy for dads?
4:33 Self-doubt in dads
5:30 Shame in men and the fear of judgment
6:15 What can therapists do to support dads who are anxious?
7:05 The importance of acknowledging strength, courage, and sacrifice in dads
7:55 The idea of appreciation and respect
9:00 How do we explain the play therapy process to dads?
9:45 The trends between moms and dads
10:40 The importance of goal-oriented language when connecting with dads
12:40 The social stigma of a child needing help
13:45 Dads want the best for their kids
14:00 The connection between male therapists and dads
14:30 “I just know different”
15:30 Pitfalls for therapists to avoid
17:15 Empowering the dad and making yourself his partner in a common goal
19:30 How can we give dads permission to heal?
20:20 Don’t let dads off the hook!
21:50 The importance of the involvement of dads
24:00 Setting expectations for dads
25:37 Speaking in metaphors dads understand
27:46 Taking the time to outline goals and be mindful
28:22 How can we normalize questions?
29:05 Having dads on your team is a mighty force