Sibling Rivalry: The Inevitable Childhood Conflict
Parents often want their children to get along, a family environment void of argument. But the sibling dynamic is one in which disagreement is unavoidable. This isn’t always a bad thing – conflict leads to empowerment and growth.
1:12 Lisa introduces the Lessons from the Playroom series
2:20 A message of gratitude
3:02 The Lessons from the Playroom Podcast is now heard in over 90 countries
3:51 Sibling rivalry is part of family dynamics
4:10 Parents often feel as though there should be no sibling rivalry
5:18 The idea that kids won’t fight sets the stage for disappointment
6:00 A family without conflict will attract conflict from the outside
7:21 Conflict is a universal law; it’s impossible to live in a one-sided experience
8:00 Why is sibling rivalry so challenging?
8:30 What are some of the reasons behind sibling rivalry?
9:50 How does dysregulation play a role? How can conflict be regulating?
10:30 How does boredom play a role?
11:21 Sibling pairs often come in opposites
12:14 Looking at the family dynamic as one nervous system
13:30 Assume that conflict is necessary
14:40 How can sibling rivalry be viewed as a mirror and growth process?
17:00 The Set-Up in Synergetic Play Therapy
18:43 How can parents handle sibling rivalry?
20:15 Why should parents refrain from intervening?
21:00 Trusting children to work out their own issues with each other
22:15 Sibling rivalry is never just one sibling picking on the other
22:40 Parents as mediators instead of judges