Lying in Play Therapy
While lying often gets a bad rap, everybody lies (yep, even you!). In fact, it has less to do with manipulation and more to do with protection of self. In other words, lying has a purpose and, as therapists, it’s up to us to recognize the feelings underneath the fib.
2:34 Everybody lies
3:23 Lying is about moving towards our values and away from challenges
4:00 What is the pain and pleasure principle?
5:21 Recognizing that lying is purposeful
6:34 The projective process
8:02 What are the reasons why children lie?
10:36 Whatever the lie a child tells, it’s all part of a protective pattern
11:52 You never take away a child’s boat unless you have another one to give them
13:00 How do we handle lying in the playroom?
15:33 Endings and Transitions podcast
17:22 Remember, the lie is purposeful
18:57 How can we avoid punishing children when they tell us what’s meaningful to them?
21:07 How can we use the lie therapeutically?